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Mitra
06-12-2006, 05:58 AM
A selection of quotes from Staying Power this week:

"By far and away, most people who lose weight on any kind or diet - including rigorous fasting regimens or even stomach-stapling procedures - will regain most of it within a year. Sadly, many of them will regain all they lost and more."

"Trust us when we say that if low carb got you thin and well, then, as our Southern grandmothers used to say, you need to "dance with him that brung you," and learn to maintain that way."

"But maintenance is more than just a way of eating. It's a way of life, a way of thinking about what's important to you, and a way of prioritizing which things are important enough to make long term changes, even sacrifices, for."

"Every maintenance journey is different; what appeals to one person might not even cause a flicker of temptation in someone else. Your goal is to figure out what works fro you."

Of course, there are many other ideas about things that help. Keeping a detailed journal for at least the first year - helps fix the habits, gives a reference for what works for you, and takes you through the round of annual festivities.

I know I've looked at this subject before, but I really hate the thought that people work so hard to improve their health and lose excess fat ... and then have to do it all over again.

What did you find hardest about maintenance, and how did you deal with it? Is there anything you've learned that could help someone else avoid a few pitfalls?

If you've lost and regained the weight once or more, what are the things that derailed you?

I suppose it's not fair that I should ask all these questions without giving my answers ;) . One thing that's hard about maintenance is losing the "reward," of seeing things change. I've had to fight the temptation to keep on losing weight just because I've come to view going down as good, and staying the same as not so good. Pursuing further health or fitness goals is one way to keep getting rewards, and transferring your efforts to other areas of life, like some hobby, or study is another way.

Monitoring is important - to catch any adverse changes before things get out of hand. I don't find that clothes work very well for me - there's too much scope for deceiving myself by just wearing looser fitting clothes :rolleyes: . The things I watch out for are fluid retention (ring gets tighter, ankles/feet get a bit puffy or "tight" feeling) and weight gain. Before reacting to weight gain, I'd take time to check that it was fat gain, but weight is the easiest thing to measure.

When I've started to drift up, journalling has been very useful. I've learned what numbers work (about 60-70g carb and 1600-1700 kcals - I don't normally count, but that gives me a reference to get back to if I've drifted), and also, I find that when I weigh and measure and record all my food I tend to eat less anyway!

Finally, hanging out here, and being constantly reminded of the advantages of eating enough protein, lots of veggies, and keeping blood sugar and insulin under control is a great help.

Another difficulty with maintenance is that it is so individual - but if we can compile a list of what has helped each of us, then we should cover a good range of the possibilities.

cmcole
06-12-2006, 08:05 AM
You are correct in saying that the "reward" of a visual (scale) reference/change is an addicting thing.

What needs to be done (and I'm speaking to myself) is to focus on wellness, health, fitness, and forget that cynical beast called a scale. Using it as a point of reference is fine, I guess, but obsessing over the numbers are a defeat waiting to happen.

I think my hardest task is based on the fact that I am the only person who follows a LC menu plan in the house. Now, my hubby is trying to cut back on the carbs/sugars due to diabetic tendencies, but that does not stop him from buying all these sugar free cookies/sweets. For some reason, he still seems to need that type of stimuli at night.

It's not that I really want to eat those things, but sometimes I feel like I cause my family more problems when they want to go pick up something fast (last night for example - sub sandwiches), and feel bad when I say I don't want anything from there (it's also a cost-savings on my part, but that's a personal matter). I don't necessarily want someone's poor excuse for a salad when I could go home and make myself something else.

Individual responses - you are so right. What is a danger zone for me may not cause someone else to bat an eyelash.

Shadow
06-12-2006, 10:07 AM
Great post for the week, Mitra :D! You know from previous discussions that I, too, find it depressing to not see an obvious sign like weight loss :p. But as for what worked for me... let me get through menopause and then get back to you on it :lol:!

Mitra
06-12-2006, 10:16 AM
But as for what worked for me... let me get through menopause and then get back to you on it :lol:!

:lol: It's a great line - but you've managed to go maintain for several years now even with your hormones' best efforts to derail you. So what's helped you stay on track? Stubbornness? (I think it's probably one of the most important qualities for maintenance :rolleyes: ) Concern for your long term health?

And, getting distracted again, has the problem with menopause been that you've gained fat even at low levels of carb/calories? Or is it that you can't lose it so easily, or that the fat isn't where you want it to be? Or something else?

Shadow
06-12-2006, 11:05 AM
:lol: It's a great line - but you've managed to go maintain for several years now even with your hormones' best efforts to derail you.
Well, yes, I was successful. However, the past two weeks were not successful ones. So let me get this 3# off (or at least not gain any more) and then we'll talk :p...

So what's helped you stay on track? Stubbornness? (I think it's probably one of the most important qualities for maintenance :rolleyes: ) Concern for your long term health?
Mainly, stubbornness :D! The same quality that can be (and has been) a sometimes big detriment has been what's kept me on the wagon all these years - and exercising even longer. Health concerns are secondary and usually only kick in during "weak" moments. So when my stubbornness lags (which isn't very darned often :lol: ) I just picture my mom in the ICU with all the machines, and the amputated leg, and so on and then I focus on her funeral - that usually gets me right where I need to be. My mom was only 62 when she died - and believe me, I'm not ready to leave that soon and if, God forbid, it happens, I want to be having a heck of a lot more fun on my way "out" :razz:!!!

And, getting distracted again, has the problem with menopause been that you've gained fat even at low levels of carb/calories? Or is it that you can't lose it so easily, or that the fat isn't where you want it to be? Or something else?
How about all of the above :rolleyes:???? First off, I must stay at or below Transition levels to maintain. Well, maybe if I didn't eat so much I could up the carbs - but I'd rather have the kcals :lol:. Second, it now takes me roughly the same time to take off a pound or two that it used to take to lose 2 or 3 x that amount. Third - you got it! It all goes straight to my problem areas... My waist/hip ratio has only gotten worse over my years of this WOE ....

banshee
06-12-2006, 02:35 PM
I think for me it's been a couple of things. First, finding low-carb treats to enjoy so I'm not tempted by the old foods. Second, and most important for me, has been that once I found the combination that worked to get me healthy, I'm not willing to go back to where I was before. It wasn't just weight, it was a slew of health problems, a slew of prescription medications, and a miserable life. Why would I want that? Almost all of the health problems are gone, I'm no longer on the medications, and I'm able to enjoy life again.

When temptation beckons, I just think about where I used to be and all is well again. Now, that's not to say that I don't occasionally give in. Lately, at a once-a-week gathering, I've been "enjoying" nibbles of seasoned french fries off hubby's plate, and I've had to remind myself about the omega-3/6 ratio, lipid peroxides, and why I really shouldn't even be taking those nibbles. I don't really want the fries, it's the seasoning that I like, and there are other healthy foods I can eat with similar seasonings.

I also still occasionally indulge in a real sugar dessert, but again, the knowledge that I really don't want to be where I was a few years ago means that those indulgences are maybe once or twice a year rather than every time we go out to eat! And when I do indulge, it's always something truly homemade and luscious rather than some nasty processed junk in the store.