Billie
05-23-2006, 06:51 AM
"Give yourself permission to say 'No.'"
Meditation for Women
Women especially, although I know some wonderful men who have this same problem...it is okay to say "No"!
We have either been trained or taken it on as our mantra that many of us have had to say yes to our life--all our lives! "Would you like some more to eat", Yes we say many times obligatory (:confused: ) "would you mind doing this or that for me?" Yes we say. "Would you mind driving the car pool today" Yes we say.
Why is it so very hard to say the word no. If that word isn't in your vocabulary yet, get it in there. The first few times--like the first 100 or so :D , saying no almost gets stuck in your throat and you think if I say no what will they do! Well you know what, they will do just fine!
It's all about setting your boundaries I imagine. Of giving yourself the space and the personal freedom, that certainly you have a right to and need. It is losing the thoughts of being selfish if you say no, it is about taking care of yourself.
When I was raising my kids I heard a radio show I remember driving in the car. It was tough back then and I thought without a father in the picture, I had to be super mom. Baloney now I think, I had to be mom and I had to be me. But this talk show went on about how saying no, at that time, the words, loving them enough to say no were used alot, was really about saying I love myself and I love you too.
If you are a yes person, and I still am to some degree but certainly very aware of it and very trying to keep my boundaries and my needs in my life, then start trying to keep that word ready and most importantly realize it is okay to say no, it really really is!
Have a great day!
Meditation for Women
Women especially, although I know some wonderful men who have this same problem...it is okay to say "No"!
We have either been trained or taken it on as our mantra that many of us have had to say yes to our life--all our lives! "Would you like some more to eat", Yes we say many times obligatory (:confused: ) "would you mind doing this or that for me?" Yes we say. "Would you mind driving the car pool today" Yes we say.
Why is it so very hard to say the word no. If that word isn't in your vocabulary yet, get it in there. The first few times--like the first 100 or so :D , saying no almost gets stuck in your throat and you think if I say no what will they do! Well you know what, they will do just fine!
It's all about setting your boundaries I imagine. Of giving yourself the space and the personal freedom, that certainly you have a right to and need. It is losing the thoughts of being selfish if you say no, it is about taking care of yourself.
When I was raising my kids I heard a radio show I remember driving in the car. It was tough back then and I thought without a father in the picture, I had to be super mom. Baloney now I think, I had to be mom and I had to be me. But this talk show went on about how saying no, at that time, the words, loving them enough to say no were used alot, was really about saying I love myself and I love you too.
If you are a yes person, and I still am to some degree but certainly very aware of it and very trying to keep my boundaries and my needs in my life, then start trying to keep that word ready and most importantly realize it is okay to say no, it really really is!
Have a great day!