Gaelen
04-11-2006, 08:32 AM
Now that we're a few days into building a new positive habit, and experiencing some success, some of us may feel ourselves stumbling. Sometimes the cause for the stumble is clear enough, but other times the stumble might be for no apparent reason. One theory is that people can fear success, especially people who are used to the comfort zone of their old, less positive habits. Do you fear succeeding in the new goals you're choosing? Try this test from an article by Nisandeh Neta to see if fear of success may be haunting you...
Sabotaging Your Own Success
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By Nisandeh Neta
"Surprisingly perhaps, there are just as many people with a fear of success, as there are those with the "standard" fear of failure. Are you one of them?
Unsure? Here is a simple test to see if you may be suffering from fear of success:
How many of the following situations can you identify with?
1. I read lots of self-help books but can't seem to improve my own life.
2. I'm insecure about money or I'm making a lot less than I should be making.
3. I'm in a job that doesn't allow me to express my real talents or true abilities.
4. I expect myself to be perfect all the time.
5. I try to be all things to all people.
6. I find it incredibly easy to start projects and very hard to finish them.
7. I feel guilty saying "no" to others.
8. I usually feel like I'm not doing enough, even though I'm doing all I can.
9. I have a very low opinion of myself, even though other people think I'm smart, funny, and capable.
10. I usually settle for less, even though I know I deserve better.
If you can identify with 5 or more of these warning signs, you may suffer from fear of success. Whatever is your reason to fear success, it is vital to identify the ways in which you sabotage your success. This way, you can avoid these traps and should you fall into them, you can at least find your way out as fast as possible."
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So, after we've prepared, made the goal, set measurable progress points--now are we truly ready to let ourselves succeed? Each of us is the only one who can answer that for ourselves.
What's your answer? ;)
Sabotaging Your Own Success
---------------------------
By Nisandeh Neta
"Surprisingly perhaps, there are just as many people with a fear of success, as there are those with the "standard" fear of failure. Are you one of them?
Unsure? Here is a simple test to see if you may be suffering from fear of success:
How many of the following situations can you identify with?
1. I read lots of self-help books but can't seem to improve my own life.
2. I'm insecure about money or I'm making a lot less than I should be making.
3. I'm in a job that doesn't allow me to express my real talents or true abilities.
4. I expect myself to be perfect all the time.
5. I try to be all things to all people.
6. I find it incredibly easy to start projects and very hard to finish them.
7. I feel guilty saying "no" to others.
8. I usually feel like I'm not doing enough, even though I'm doing all I can.
9. I have a very low opinion of myself, even though other people think I'm smart, funny, and capable.
10. I usually settle for less, even though I know I deserve better.
If you can identify with 5 or more of these warning signs, you may suffer from fear of success. Whatever is your reason to fear success, it is vital to identify the ways in which you sabotage your success. This way, you can avoid these traps and should you fall into them, you can at least find your way out as fast as possible."
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So, after we've prepared, made the goal, set measurable progress points--now are we truly ready to let ourselves succeed? Each of us is the only one who can answer that for ourselves.
What's your answer? ;)